When mainstream mental health services leave you feeling silenced or misunderstood, a life-giving approach is possible. Here, we focus on understanding your experiences in context, just as we would with a plant that’s struggling to thrive.
When a plant wilts, we don’t diagnose it with a “wilting disorder.” We don’t tell it to try harder or pull itself up by its roots. Instead, we look at its environment — adjust the sunlight, check the soil, change the watering schedule.
In our current mental health system, human distress is often:
When a plant wilts, we naturally look at its entire environment — the sunlight, soil, and water it needs to thrive. Similarly, I believe in looking at the whole picture of a person’s life, understanding their unique circumstances, and supporting their natural capacity for growth.
Your experiences make perfect sense in the context of your life. That’s why our work together honors your whole story while focusing on what matters most to you right now. Whether you want to explore specific challenges, understand patterns, or find new ways forward, we’ll work at a pace that feels helpful for you.
💡 Pro-Information: Seeing the Whole Picture
Just as a gardener considers many factors — sunlight, soil, water, seasons — when understanding a plant’s growth (or lack thereof), there are many ways to make sense of your experiences.
When I sought help at 18, I was offered only one lens — a medical model that turned my sleeplessness into a ‘schizophrenia’ diagnosis, without exploring what was actually happening in my life.
Your experiences — whether it’s anxiety, low mood, or relationship struggles — can be understood from many perspectives. They might be:
You deserve to explore these different ways of understanding your experiences, not just through a single lens. When we expand our view, new possibilities for growth emerge.
🎯 Pro-Choice: Finding Your Own Path
Just as each plant finds its unique path toward light, you deserve the freedom to shape your own journey of growth and healing.
At 18, I walked into a hospital simply needing help with sleep. Instead, I was given a prescription without any discussion of alternatives — like being handed powerful pesticide when all you needed was water. “It’s just one tablet a day,” they said, without exploring what I actually needed or offering other ways to help me rest.
In today’s mental health system, “choice” often means selecting between predetermined options — like being offered only one type of soil when your plant might need something entirely different. Real choice means having the freedom to:
Your autonomy isn’t about being told what to do or selecting from a limited menu of options. It’s about having the space and support to find your own natural way forward, just as plants instinctively know which way to grow when given the right conditions.
🧭 Pro-Wisdom: Trusting Your Inner Knowing
Just as a plant knows instinctively how to grow toward light, you have an innate wisdom about what you need to thrive.
When I was seeing therapists after my heart-breaking hospital experience, they seemed more interested in fitting my story into their theories than understanding what was actually happening. They dismissed my trauma from hospitalization, insisted that diagnosis could not be ‘wrong’, warning me about ‘relapse’ even when I was doing well, encouraged me to lower my expectations about my future, and blamed what happened to me on my mother. In doing so, they missed something crucial — my own inner knowing that something wasn’t right about the diagnosis that I was given and treatment underpinned by it.
Psychologist and philosopher Eugene Gendlin’s research at the University of Chicago Counseling Center revealed something profound: lasting positive change in therapy comes from a person’s ability to access and follow their inner felt experience. He called this “felt sense” — a bodily felt understanding of how a situation sits with you, deeper than just emotion or physical sensation. While some people naturally access this subtle, whole-body knowing, others can learn to develop it with gentle attention and practice, much like learning to discern subtle notes in wine or music. His research showed that clients who could connect with their felt sense tended to have better outcomes, leading him to develop specific ways to help people access this inner knowing.
Your inner wisdom might show up as:
In a world that prioritizes external expertise and quick fixes, we often lose touch with this natural capacity to understand and respond to life’s challenges. While frameworks and theories can be valuable tools, your inner wisdom is even more precious — guiding you to develop understandings and approaches that truly fit your unique experience.
Our work together isn’t about me having all the answers. Like a gardener who creates conditions for plants to grow naturally, my role is to help you reconnect with and trust your own knowing. Eventually, you become your own gardener, tending to your growth in ways that truly work for you.
Our work together creates a space where:
I lean towards seeing your experiences as natural responses to life circumstances rather than symptoms to be diagnosed. Why? Because I’ve seen how this helps people find sustainable wellbeing and often exit the mental health system altogether – both through my own journey and my years working across Singapore’s mental health system.
That said, if viewing your experiences through a medical lens feels helpful to you, I honor that choice and I would love to understand your perspective!
Breaking Free to Grow 🌱
Like a plant breaking free from a confining box to reach the sunlight, you deserve space to grow in ways that are natural for you. Together, we create conditions that support your authentic growth and wellbeing.
Let’s start with a free, confidential 15-minute conversation.
No pressure, no boxes – just space to explore what matters to you.
Think of it as opening a door. You decide how far to step in.
